Fighting Fair
Fighting Fair.
*Fighting Fair. Today I challenge you to make a commitment to Fight Fair. Arguments can be constructive if you fight fair! Although it's nothing to be proud of we have all had arguments. Every couple argues. When in a relationship our different view points can lead to arguments. However, arguments can be constructive if you implement some rules for fighting fair. Some of the benefits of fighting fair include shorter arguments, less intense arguments, and happier endings.
Below you will find a list of some of the ways we fight dirty. You can find the full description of each
. Take a moment to identify which of these techniques you are currently using. Once you learn your fighting dirty technique(s) write it on a piece of paper, and then throw it in the trash! Today you commit to Fight Fair and the first step in fighting fair it to stop fighting dirty.
- Blaming
- Pulling Rank
- Not Listening
- Listing Injustices
- Labeling
- Mind-Reading
- Fortune-Telling
- Being Sarcastic
- Avoiding Responsibility
- Leaving
- Rejecting Compromise
- Personalizing
- Playing the Martyr
- Using Money
- Using Children
- Using Relatives
- Giving Advice
- Getting Even
- Using Terminal Language
- Being Inconsistent
- Others
An additional tip is to sit with your loved one and set up some rules to arguing, such as, no name calling, no walking out on each other, no foul language used towards one another, no telling the other to "shut-up" etc. It's your relationship; you can set the rules! Remember rules only work if you follow them. Once the new rules are set both parties have to agree and make changes accordingly.
Lastly, as it's been mentioned on other Day Challenges, change does not always happen overnight. If you slip; stop, and start again. If your loved one slips, gently remind him/her of the rules, forgive, and start again.
Cheers to Fighting Fair!
*When I mention "fighting” in this article I am specifically talking about arguing. I DO NOT condone physical violence, especially
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